Natural parenting seems to face a lot of opposition.  Nearly every person I’m around has something to say about why I am raising my child the wrong way.  I do not want to be one of those people.

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Obviously, I wouldn’t be criticizing natural parenting, but I could easily slip into judging other types of parenting choices that people make.  I do not want to do this, but I occasionally catch myself thinking that other parents could, or more truthfully, “should” do things a different way.  That really is unfair of me, especially when I HATE when others treat me that way.

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Being looked down upon by others can make a person feel really lousy (myself included).  There is little worse things that can happen to a kid than being made fun of by their fellow classmates in school.  I don’t believe that things change all that much once we become adults.  “Grown ups” are usually just better at covering up their shame.

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If only we could all be mature, loving adults.  That would be a perfect world.

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Natural parenting is a way of life for us, but it’s not who we “are” as a family.  As a family, we are simply a small group of people who love each other dearly, and want what is best for one another.  I have to remember this.  If I do, I’ll be less likely to get so caught up in my natural parenting ideals that I forget that other families are also trying their very best.

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Some parents will get their children vaccinated, but we won’t, so who is the better family?

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There isn’t one.  No one has the right to judge which is the better decision. Both sides have reasonable arguments as to why their way is the “better” way.  Truth is, there is no better way, because better is completely subjective.  We must stop arguing about these things.

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However, that doesn’t mean we should just stop defending the things we believe in, that’s not what I’m saying at all.  We should continue to fight for our causes.  We just need to do so without trying to annihilate all the people who disagree with us.

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It is easy to get defensive when you’re a natural parent because it seems like everyone is against you.  We are always wrong wrong wrong.  In my case, I’ll admit that I frequently have my guard up with people, because I always feel it necessary to defend myself.  This probably wouldn’t be the case if more people would just agree to disagree with me, without trying to shove their mainstream way of thinking down my throat.  (See what I mean about me being defensive? :) )

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I don’t want to be that way.  I want to be accepting of other people’s decisions, and trust that they truly do have their child’s best interest in mind.  I don’t want to be the person who tries to convince others that natural parenting is the absolute BEST way to parent, because that might not always be the case.

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Different people do different things, and although I would still love to see more families taking on natural parenting lifestyles, I’m going to try not to force my decisions on others.

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This blog is a different story, however.  This is my freedom place.  This is where I rant, and talk about how wonderful natural parenting is for me, and how so many others could benefit if they just tried it, etc…  People already know what this blog is about, and they have the choice to read it or not, so I don’t consider this a place where I am forcing my opinions on anyone, simply because I’m not in control of the sites they visit.

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In other words, I’m still passionate about this blog, and I won’t be stopping anytime soon.  I hope that many of you will receive encouragement and hope from my writing.  (I know I’m not a great writer, but sometimes just knowing that there are others out there in the same boat can be encouraging enough.)

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I hope you will all keep coming back to read.  Just remember, what is right for my family, isn’t going to be right for everyone.


I love this little boy so much. Being a mother is by far the most amazing thing I’ve ever experienced, and yesterday was a HUGE day for me in mommy world.

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This is why.

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I didn’t fall off the face of the planet, it was just a really busy week.

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I wish I could tell you that I accomplished a lot, but I can’t!  Time flew by.  I do, however, know that I got to spend a lot of wonderful mommy time with my little boy, and I had an absolute blast.  I can’t wait to move to a far away island so we can forget about all of these city life obligations.  Ahh, the thought of it.

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Today was an amazing day.  The weather was perfect, 78 degrees perfect to be exact, without a cloud in the sky.  Gosh, I love spring.  New life fills every space around you, which is a big reason why I simply MUST be outside during this season.  (I always like the outdoors, but spring is when my urge to be there is the strongest.)

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Axel adores being in the sun.  He is perfectly content just crawling his little heart out all over the lawn.  It’s so funny because he doesn’t usually try to eat any leaves, where as when he’s inside, he attempts to eat everything!  Every spec of dirt in sight, he must devour.  I guess that means we should live outside.  (I’m sure I’ve said this before, please forgive me for sounding like a broken record.)

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Sunbathing Baby!

Hopefully, we will go camping again this weekend.  We want to give Axel some naked outside time, but we can’t exactly do that here because all the neighbors will get freaked out.  Patrick and I have a theory about sun exposure on the private bits.  (No, we haven’t taken natural parenting too far, calm down. :) )  There has to be some specific benefit to being naked in the sun, and although we don’t know what that is exactly, we still want to give Axel the chance to experience it while he’s young (because we can’t let him run around nude at age 12!)

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I can’t wait to be outside more.  It feels so good to be in the sun all day, absorbing all of the vitamin D goodness.  You all know what I’m talking about.  It’s the feeling you have after playing on the beach for hours.  You feel so worn out, but full of energy at the same time.  The redness in your cheeks makes you glow with life.  (Unless you’re super sensitive to the sun, then you probably look like a tomato :) )  I love the sun.

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One of the most amazing things happened to my family today.  I don’t want to spoil the surprise, but I’ll just say that we’ll all be getting more exercise from here on out.  I’ll show you a video of “the big secret” tomorrow.

Welcome to the March Carnival of Natural Parenting: Vintage green!

This post was written for inclusion in the monthly Carnival of Natural Parenting hosted by Code Name: Mama and Hobo Mama. This month we’re writing about being green — both how green we were when we were young and how green our kids are today. Please read to the end to find a list of links to the other carnival participants.


Growing up, I was about the furthest thing from a “green” child as there could be.  I was raised eating processed food, loaded with artificial dyes, preservatives, and who knows what else.  I frequently ate fruit for breakfast, but sadly, it was in the form of strawberry pop tarts.

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I was sick a lot.  I realize now that my diet was to blame, but at the time I had no understanding of food in relation to how my body felt.  I just ate what we had, which was usually ramen noodles, or some frozen fried food.  I recall becoming more and more unhappy as I got older (and my out of control teenage hormones didn’t help).

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I do have a few distinct, happy memories, though, that I now would consider to be green related.  My brother and I used to pick these little purple flowers from the yard, and we would eat them, petals and all.  They were sour, which made them fun to eat (why do kids seem to like sour flavors so much?).  I craved those tiny flowers, which I’m sure was because they were nutritionally beneficial for my body.

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I have similar memories of picking figs from the neighbors yard, and plucking blackberries with friends along the railroad tracks.  I find it interesting that many of my fond memories have to due with fresh, raw food.  It’s as if my body felt so good after eating the flowers, berries, and figs, that my mind attached the experience with happiness.  The brain has a mind of it’s own, I guess.  :)

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With our son, things are much different, as we are trying to be more conscious of our environment.  However, we are not just raising Axel greener because it has become the “in” thing to do.  We are doing it because we believe that God created the earth, and entrusted it’s care to us.  The same goes for our bodies.  We have a responsibility to listen to our convictions, and for us that means living as naturally as possible and teaching Axel to do the same.

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When it comes to raising our son, the absolute most important green behavior that we practice is loving him unconditionally (most of the time, but we obviously aren’t perfect).  We can be as green as we want, but if we don’t love him, none of it really matters much.

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When we focus our attention on loving him, many other natural things fall gently into place.  Loving our sweet baby forces us to think about his feelings before making decisions about his life.

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Axel sleeps with my husband and I because we don’t like sleeping alone, so why would he?

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I breastfeed Axel on demand, because I know that my milk is nourishing and comforting to him.

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We practice elimination communication, because we know that we would want help using the bathroom if we couldn’t do it on our own, and we feel he deserves the same respect.

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My whole point is that being an environmentally friendly family isn’t just about loving the earth.  It’s about loving our son (and future children) enough to teach them that we should take care of our bodies, our land, and other people, because that’s what we were created by God to do.  We must respect life.


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Ahh, it’s been a great weekend.  We were able to eat raw all day yesterday, thanks to green smoothies, until about 8pm.  We did close to the same today.  I’ve had so much more mental clarity than I usually do, and it has really opened my eyes even more towards raw foods.

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Since Patrick and I had somewhat of a raw food revelation, we decided that our eating habits needed an overhaul.  We decided that we are going to drink a green smoothie everyday for brunch (after our morning breakfast of fruit).  Also, we are soon going to purchase some raw almonds online.  When we get those in, we hope to have the following daily routine, excluding Tuesdays and Thursday because Patrick cannot get a break to have a smoothie at work.  (That’s if Axel does okay with the raw almonds, as we just discovered that cooked nuts don’t work for him.)

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  • 6am : Wake up – eat 2 pieces of fruit within a half hour
  • 9am : Drink green smoothie
  • 11am : Eat a few soaked seeds, or some avocado
  • 1-2 pm : Eat a handful of soaked almonds
  • 4 pm : Snack on carrots or celery
  • 6 pm : Eat potato soup, or beans, rice, and vegetables

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This is actually what my routine will be, but Patrick will most likely have to eat some oatmeal, cereal, or potatoes during the day for added calories.  If we are able to find inexpensive fruit to eat this summer, he may be able to stay raw all day then, too. 

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Speaking of the summer, we have been daydreaming about mangoes, strawberries, and watermelon a lot lately.  Oh my goodness, I can almost taste them.  Last summer was a bust when it came to fruit, so we’re hoping that things will be different this year. 

Here is what each of us ate yesterday AND today.  It looks like a lot but the flavor is so good that you just cannot stop eating them.  We each had two large smoothies per day.  No wonder my brain was clear- I went through 4 heads of lettuce all by myself! 

This made 2 large (and delicious!) green smoothies

Looking at the picture makes me want more!  Seriously, I’m starting to crave green smoothies like mad, and the same is true for Patrick.  Our bodies are getting used to having all the nutrients available, and they seem to be quite pleased about it! 

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This past Thursday, Patrick was not able to get off of work to come home for a smoothie, so we did without.  Apparently, that wasn’t a good idea because Patrick said that his mind could not process anything correctly.  His body desperately wanted and needed a green smoothie, and it showed.  I’m curious to see how our “off” days go this upcoming week.  (No smoothies on Tuesdays and Thursdays)

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Like I’ve said before, please try these green smoothies!  They really give you an energy buzz, especially if you drink two in one day.  :)
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*By the way, this new green smoothie habit of ours is quite expensive, especially since we use organic produce.  (It costs $6-7 for two large smoothies, to be exact.)  If you multiply that cost by 20 (5 days per week), you end up with a $130 cost at the end of the month.  In other words, we really have to strap down with the other foods that we purchase if we are going to make this work.  The effort is definitely worth it, though, because we feel better, and we can actually SHARE them with Axel.  He loves them.
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Please excuse the way I speak in the video below. I’m pretty sure I say “like,” like 20 times.

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