Elimination communication potty training isn’t as hard as it sounds- most of the time.

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Today it was hard, though.  Axel overslept last night, so his nap schedule was all out of whack this afternoon.  He has been cranky, agitated, and in an all around lousy mood.  The poor little guy has been falling apart.

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I thought I’d take advantage of this day and let you all know that we most certainly do have elimination communication potty training issues.  It’s important that people understand that even full time ECers have their bad days.  Sometimes babies just don’t want to use the potty, and that’s okay.  The important thing is that we aren’t giving up, even after days like these.  (Axel’s gone through 7 pairs of underwear!)

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I want this post to be encouraging for those who have an interest in elimination communication potty training, but who think that they are not cut out to do it perfectly.  Truth is, no one is.  It would be a lot different if we all lived outside in the nude, like we did in the beginning, but things are no longer that way.  That is the main reason I am not anti-diaper, because I understand that our world isn’t how it once was.  Many of the more natural practices have become not so natural, simply because we live in a completely different culture now.

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It’s really important not to get stressed out on days when you have a lot of misses. Elimination communication potty training is not about perfection.  “Off” days should just give you a chance to learn more about your children, their needs, and how they communicate those needs to you.  Today was a perfect learning opportunity for Patrick and I, and although days like these can be slightly discouraging, we still trust that we are doing the right thing for our family.

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I’ll give you a quick overview of how our day went today.

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We woke up, and well rested Axel used the potty without a problem.  He also went two times after that easily and without fuss.  Then nap time came around, but because he had overslept last night, he wasn’t ready for it.  That’s when things started going downhill.

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He became more cranky as time passed.  He started to flex and throw a fit every time we tried to potty him, but he would pee in his underwear a minute or two later.  We decided to give him a break and relaxed on the ec for awhile.  (There’s no point in trying to force your child to use the bathroom, especially if it’s just going to tick him/her off.)

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He eventually fell asleep, but because he had been refusing the potty, he had a full bladder.  (We had a couple of misses before this, but Axel rarely completely empties his bladder in his underwear.  He doesn’t like feeling wet.)  Anyway, he ended up waking up after only an hour because he needed to use the bathroom (he wakes up to go potty, and he won’t go back to sleep if it’s during a nap).  Then the cycle began all over again.

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I wouldn’t say today was a complete ec failure, as we did catch some of Axel’s pees, and his one poop.  The number of misses or catches we have isn’t really important, though.  This is not a game of score.  Each day is going to be different.  We’re very thankful that we’ve had a lot of success with this process, but we just want people to know that we still have difficulties.  Regardless, we love elimination communication potty training, and we’re happy we get to practice it with Axel.

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If we can do it, you can do it too.

Yesterday I wrote an article for Ezine Articles, and Patrick suggested that I use it as a blog post as well.  I was happy he recommended it, because I have a migraine, and I don’t much feel like writing brand new material.  :)   Here’s the article:

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Potty Training Your Infant With Elimination Communication

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So, you have decided to learn more about infant potty training, but you do not know quite where to start. You are in the right place! Let me first give a brief description of what elimination communication actually is, and then we will get into why people are choosing to practice it.

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Elimination Communication (EC) is a potty training practice in which a person uses timing, signals, cues, and instinct to respond to an infant’s need to eliminate. One of the goals is to partially or completely avoid the use of diapers. EC emphasizes relationship between the caregiver and child, helping them both become more in tune to the child’s natural rhythms and control of his/her bladder and bowels. The term “elimination communication” originated with traditional practices of diaper-less baby care in less industrialized countries. Some people start EC soon after birth, although it can be started with babies of any age.

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Now that we have gotten that out of the way, let us move on to the top reasons folks choose to practice infant potty training.

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#1 – Parents have an innate desire to connect with their offspring, and when a parent is truly in tune with those feelings, they passionately want to do everything in their power to facilitate the bond between their children and themselves. This strong, natural, parental instinct is the most important reason families choose to practice EC. These parents believe that their children are able to non-verbally communicate their needs to them, including their elimination needs. Because of this belief, they quickly respond to their children if they sense they need to eliminate by taking them to the toilet, sink, or even outside. These “natural parenting” adults also believe that their children should not have to sit in their own waste, for they deserve the same respect as any other human being.

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#2 – People are always interested in saving money, and it is not any different for parents. Actually, frugality seems to be amplified once a person becomes a parent. All of the sudden you have to account for the expenses of caring for another human being. That can cost a pretty penny, too. Parents are always trying to come up with ways to pinch a dime or two out of their childcare spending, and elimination communication is one great way to do it. You do not have to worry about diapers, and even if you do choose to use diapers, most EC parents choose inexpensive cloth prefolds. The reason for this is that the baby and parent are able to immediately realize that the child has used the bathroom, because they can see and/or feel the wetness. This allows the child to remain aware of his bodies eliminating function. If disposables are used, most babies quickly lose this natural awareness, because the diapers absorb all the dampness of their urine.

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If you practice full time elimination communication, and do not purchase diapers, you can expect to save thousands of dollars over the course of your child’s “diapering” years. Not to mention the fact that most of these EC‘d babies will be fully toilet trained far before most other non-practicing children, usually around 12-18 months old. This is quite a miracle considering the average potty training age is now 3-4 years of age.

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However, if you do decide to buy some prefold diapers of good quality, you still are only likely to spend a couple hundred dollars, sometimes less. It all depends on how frugal you really want to be. The point is that EC can be a HUGE money saver if you decide to try it. (Elimination Communication Money Savings)

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#3 – Many babies are plagued with diaper rash. The causes of this are too many to count, but frequently they are related to sitting too long in a dirty diaper. It isn’t uncommon to find parents who allow there infants to go diaper free for short periods of time, while in the comfort of their homes. This is because the air allows the babies’ rashed skin the breathe, which aids in healing the problem. I am sure these same people occasionally deal with a little pee on the carpet from time to time.

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What these parents do not usually realize is that what they are doing could actually be termed elimination communication, since most EC families allow their children at least some diaper free time. Many do it early on in the process as a way to observe and learn about their child’s elimination routines. Others allow diaper free time once they feel confident enough in their ability to read their child’s potty cues. Then, there are the few who believe in allowing the child do as they please at all times, and therefore just do not make them wear clothes. (Although, I am finding this to be on the more rare side.)

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I am sure many parents of babies with sore bums would actually be willing to at least attempt elimination communication, if they just allowed themselves to have an open mind. They would see that the benefits FAR outweigh any hassle they might have to go through with the process.

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In conclusion, elimination communication is a wonderful bonding experience for you and your child. It has the potential to save you some mucho bucks, and it is plain better for your child’s bottom. Go ahead, be weird for once, and give this infant potty training stuff a whirl. I promise you will not regret it!

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Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Sarah_South

It’s about darn time. I’ve been meaning to put an elimination communication video together, using the footage we taped on our last camping excursion. Unfortunately, I didn’t have a movie editing program, which caused quite a delay.

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Today, I was able to download some software for free, enabling me to make the elimination communication video below.  We’ve entitled it, “A day in the life.“  It’s not very long, but I feel it gets the point across well enough for people who haven’t seen or heard much about the subject of infant potty training.

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Please rate and comment on my video, if possible.  We really want to get the word out about elimination communication.  People need to know about this money saving, bond building practice.  It’s just another fun thing for us “natural parenting” folks to try. :)  Thanks to all you EC supporters!

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It’s only been four days, but it feels like I haven’t blogged in forever!  It was nice to have a break.

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We went camping over the weekend, and had an absolute blast!  It was so much fun.  I always feel more alive after spending a few days in the outdoors.  It’s where I was meant to live.

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Axel seems so much happier when he’s out in the fresh air.  He doesn’t fuss much at all, and he doesn’t ever seem to get bored like he does while we’re in the house.  Everything is naturally entertaining.  For some reason, watching him play outside just makes my heart happy.

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We recorded some infant potty training footage during the trip.  We want to make a “day in the life” type of film, but unfortunately, I don’t currently have the software needed to accomplish that, yet.  I’m going to start looking into some programs soon.  For now, though, we just uploaded him using the urinal in the state park’s bathroom facility.  People get a kick out of this stuff.

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Isn’t he just the sweetest thing you’ve ever seen in your life?  He sure is to us.

I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately, as I can’t seem to find a definitive answer anywhere that I look.  Not that I really need someone to tell me what being a natural parent is, but it’s still nice to know what people are thinking when I tell them I’m trying to be one.

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I’ve discovered that the answer to this question is very much dependant upon who you’re asking.  I believe that there is one uniting quality in all of these people, however, which is that they all want to raise their children as naturally as possible.  The reason it gets confusing is because every person uniquely defines what “natural” is.

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For me, being a natural parent means listening to my instincts, regardless of what the experts, research, or other parents tell me.  It’s about taking every little moment I’ve experienced into account, and making the best decisions I can using those very memories.  I know nothing that I have not lived.  I can only do what I feel is right as I go along.

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I believe that God created the world, and those who live in it, in a very specific, intentional way.  There is an order to things, and when a person goes outside of that order, or takes shortcuts, there is bound to be consequences.  I’m not saying that you’re damned to hell if you put disposable diapers on your kid, but I am saying that a lot of these things have downsides, many times so minimal that we don’t even notice.  I see this in my own life all the time. 

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We will never be able to live perfectly natural, as the world has changed significantly since it first began (whether that was a 100,000,000,000 years ago, or only 8,000, things are different), but we can try our hardest to listen to our hearts, and do what is best for our children. 

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For some, that will mean formula feeding their baby.  For others, that may mean putting their child in daycare, while they work outside the home.  There is not a one size fits all way to parent.  We have to do what feels natural for us, as individuals.  Formula feeding may not be as good as breastmilk, but if breastfeeding is going to make a mommy really stressed out, I think it would be much better for her to just use the formula.  That way she is relaxed, and able to ultimately be a better mother for her child.  Love is the most important thing.

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I’d like to quickly highlight some things that Patrick and I feel are really important in our natural parenting journey. 

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  1. Respecting our child/ren’s needs, and loving him unconditionally, even when it makes us uncomfortable (and believe you me, it has!)
  2. Responding to our child/ren’s needs and desires which include:
  3. Infant Potty Training – responding to Axel’s need to eliminate, and helping him to do so in a comfortable enviroment (Elimination Communication)
  4. Co-Sleeping – responding to Axel’s need to be close to us, and cherishing this time we have with him
  5. Baby-wearing – again, we recognize Axel’s need to be close to us, and we feel that wearing him helps us accomplish this, while still being able to get other things done.
  6. Breastfeeding – we believe the breast is a very important place of comfort for our son, and it also supplies him with wonderful nutrition, which is crucial for us.
  7. Unschooling – he is still very young, but we want to honor his passions by allowing him to explore the world throughout his life, without him feeling forced to “learn” things that are uninteresting to him.  (I don’t think he would actually be truly learning anyway, if that was the case.)
  8. Raw foods – we want to fuel his body as naturally as possible, which for us means having fresh, whole, unaltered food available for him to eat, if he wants to eat it.
  9. We want to show him God’s love through loving him, and each other.  We don’t want to be overbearing parents who insist that he believe how we believe, because we know that is very ineffective.  We are simply going to try our best to show him pure love, without judgement, as God loves us.

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I’m sure I could go on and on, but I felt it necessary to give at least a little framework of what we consider natural parenting to be.  I want everyone to know that I do not think these are the “right” way of doing things, simply the right way for us.  Please, follow your own hearts when it comes to raising your children.  I just ask that you try your hardest to understand that I am doing the same. 

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Thank you all for reading.  Sorry if things got a little sappy.  :)   I’ll be back on Sunday.