My Ergo is back!  I can’t tell you how thrilled I am.  It’s been out of order for the past 6 weeks, sadly due to my pure stupidity.  (Ugh!)

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You see, a couple of months ago I was trying to figure out how to set up the Ergo straps correctly for the side carry position.  I decided to go ahead and watch the instructional dvd that it came with, so I wouldn’t end up doing it the wrong way.  (Who knew that would be the least of my worries, haha.)

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On the video, they give an example of the different positions just fine, but they are using an Ergo that has since been upgraded.  The one on the video has removable straps, but mine does not.  I spent about 10 minutes trying to dismantle the straps, until I finally realized that they didn’t come off.  Frustrated, I went on to set it up how I wanted it, with all the straps still intact.  (Apparently, that didn’t register in my blonde mind, though, because I later thought I had lost them…)

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We had been using the side carry position for awhile, but it soon became too uncomfortable for our backs.  When Patrick asked how he could put it back to the front carry position, I told him that I would have to put the straps back on first, which were at home at the time, or so I thought.  (That stupid video was playing in my head, so I was convinced I had removed them!)

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I had been feeling pretty down lately about the whole thing.  I LOVE my Ergo carrier, and I’ve hated not being able to hold Axel as much as I like to.  Two days ago, though, we were at Central Market, and I decided I would carry Axel in the side carry position, and just deal with the slight back pain.  I picked it up from the back of the van, and glancing at it, I realized it looked like the straps were connected.  It took me roughly 2 seconds to realize what was going on.  Wow.  Talk about feeling like an idiot.  I explained to Patrick what had happened, and , of course, being the positive being that he is, just laughed and said, “well, at least we can use it now!”

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That is true, at least we can use it.  The Ergo is an amazing carrier, and definitely my favorite of all I’ve tried (Bjorn, and some other off brands).  It is perfect for wearing around the house, to the grocery store, or up a mountain.  (Awesome for hiking!)  We’ve really enjoyed it so far, and it’s great because both Patrick and I can wear it without adjusting it much.  It’s very comfortable in the front carry position, but as I mentioned, the side carry can be a strain on the back.  (For us, at least.)  We have yet to try carrying Axel on our backs, as he hasn’t really been stable enough to do so.  We’ll test that out soon.

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One downside was that we couldn’t use it until he was three months old.  Before then, he was just too little, and wobbly.  However, the Ergo makers have come up with a solution for this, called an infant insert.  It’s basically just some padding to put inside the carrier, around the baby, to make him/her more secure.  We didn’t personally try it, but we’ve heard good things about it.  (I’ve also heard that receiving blankets can do the job just as well, and are less expensive.)

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Before Axel was 3 months old, we used the Moby Wrap, which I also highly recommend.  It was indispensable for us when he was itty bitty.  If he was getting sleepy, or just mentally over stimulated, I would wrap him up close to me with the Moby.  He loved it, and almost always fell asleep within a few minutes.  This enabled me to be near him, while still allowing me the freedom to do things around the house.  I doubt I would have gotten anything done without it.  (<— not that I got much house work done anyway, but a little is better than nothing!)

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Both carriers are great, but if you are only looking to purchase one, I’d go with the Ergo, as you will be able to use it for longer.  (Axel is really too big for the Moby at this point- he’s 20 pounds.)  However, the Ergo is 2 1/2 times the price, so if you are on a very limited budget, the Moby is a great buy.  It’s $40, but considering it’s just a long piece of stretchy cloth, you may be able to make one yourself.  The point is that you find something that is comfortable for you and your baby.  That way, you can both enjoy the bond you create by being close to each other.  Babies love being near their mommies and daddies!

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Hiking with Axel in the Ergo!

Hiking with Axel in the Ergo!

Patrick with Axel in the Moby

Patrick with Axel in the Moby!

I just finished reading John Holt’s book, “Teach Your Own.”  In the Unschooling circles, he seems to be the go to man on how to unschool children.  He’s written several books, and I’m planning on reading another one as soon as I can get to the library.

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Overall, it was a good read, but I have to say that it’s really dry, and a bit boring, at times.  I was able to benefit a lot from certain aspects of the book, though, especially the end, when Holt talked about “how” to unschool.  He said that the whole point of unschooling and homeschooling is that you have the freedom to do as you please with your own children.  It’s not all about throwing out the textbooks, and traditional classes, but it’s about letting the child learn whatever it is they want to at that time.  If your son or daughter really wants to learn algebra, go ahead and get him/her a textbook and start the lessons.  If they get bored with it, put it away for a time, until the interest comes up again.  By doing this, you are truly allowing your child to learn the material.

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How many things did people attempt to “teach” you in school, that you remember nothing about now?  A lot, if you’re like most.  But, remember when you went on a trip with your dad or mom, and they showed you the different types of leaves while hiking?  It’s likely that you still remember all of those leaves.  The reason?  It’s because you were interested at that time.  You weren’t being force fed information by teachers that you cared nothing about.

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That’s one of the troubles with school.  Some do well, others don’t, and you get graded accordingly.  I really cannot see the fairness in this.  Some of the kids may be interested, some may not, and it’s probable that the interested ones will do better.

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I think the problem stems from the fact that someone high up gets to decide what all of the kids should accomplish in compulsory schooling.  That’s a load of dung, if you ask me.  Kids don’t learn things at the same pace, nor do they comprehend each lesson at the same rate.  I could care less about how to diagram a sentence, but I’d love to learn how to grow vegetables.  Who’s to say that what I want to learn is any less important than what someone else does?  This is what is being done to most children nowadays.

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We throw them in a building with a bunch of kids their age, and we demand that they perform a certain way, within a certain time frame, and with a good attitude.  Everyone is always talking about how kids are bored with school, and acting out because they are lazy, or just bad “seeds”.  Well, I’m here to say that the kids are bored because they aren’t interested in the work.

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Take, for example, a kids who is failing math, science, and english, but is doing excellent in history.  Soon teachers and parents are getting together, discussing why little Tim isn’t trying harder with his failing grade classes.  Everyone is concerned, and worried he won’t get into a good college, or ever graduate high school.  There ends up being a whole lot of fuss over nothing.  Maybe, instead of being so negative, they should start to encourage his history studies, and take him to museums, famous historical sites, and other things related to history.  That way they are nurturing what he is good at, and what he is interested in.  (I realize that the boy couldn’t ignore the other subjects, as he wouldn’t receive a passing grade in the traditional school setting, but I think that the point of focus for his studies should be what he is intrigued by.)

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It seems that the only reason kids are forced to all learn the same thing is so they can all graduate, and all get into college, and all go on to have a job requiring a degree, regardless of whether or not they are happy doing it.  That is the society we live in.  It’s all about keeping the kids busy, so they don’t get into trouble, and so they can pass a state mandated test.  (They haven’t done so well thus far, might I add.)

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Apparently, we’re just here to go to school, get a slip of paper that deems us more intelligent, and work at a job that pays a lot of money.  So much for personal satisfaction, and further more, so much for trying to honor God with the talents and gifts He’s given us.  We weren’t all made the same, and we can’t expect our children to thrive when being forced to be just like everybody else.  They are individuals, just like adults, except that they haven’t yet had their dreams crushed.  Let’s do our part and allow our kids to truly learn outside of a school building, or at least pay more attention to what is going on inside of them.