I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately, as I can’t seem to find a definitive answer anywhere that I look.  Not that I really need someone to tell me what being a natural parent is, but it’s still nice to know what people are thinking when I tell them I’m trying to be one.

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I’ve discovered that the answer to this question is very much dependant upon who you’re asking.  I believe that there is one uniting quality in all of these people, however, which is that they all want to raise their children as naturally as possible.  The reason it gets confusing is because every person uniquely defines what “natural” is.

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For me, being a natural parent means listening to my instincts, regardless of what the experts, research, or other parents tell me.  It’s about taking every little moment I’ve experienced into account, and making the best decisions I can using those very memories.  I know nothing that I have not lived.  I can only do what I feel is right as I go along.

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I believe that God created the world, and those who live in it, in a very specific, intentional way.  There is an order to things, and when a person goes outside of that order, or takes shortcuts, there is bound to be consequences.  I’m not saying that you’re damned to hell if you put disposable diapers on your kid, but I am saying that a lot of these things have downsides, many times so minimal that we don’t even notice.  I see this in my own life all the time. 

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We will never be able to live perfectly natural, as the world has changed significantly since it first began (whether that was a 100,000,000,000 years ago, or only 8,000, things are different), but we can try our hardest to listen to our hearts, and do what is best for our children. 

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For some, that will mean formula feeding their baby.  For others, that may mean putting their child in daycare, while they work outside the home.  There is not a one size fits all way to parent.  We have to do what feels natural for us, as individuals.  Formula feeding may not be as good as breastmilk, but if breastfeeding is going to make a mommy really stressed out, I think it would be much better for her to just use the formula.  That way she is relaxed, and able to ultimately be a better mother for her child.  Love is the most important thing.

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I’d like to quickly highlight some things that Patrick and I feel are really important in our natural parenting journey. 

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  1. Respecting our child/ren’s needs, and loving him unconditionally, even when it makes us uncomfortable (and believe you me, it has!)
  2. Responding to our child/ren’s needs and desires which include:
  3. Infant Potty Training – responding to Axel’s need to eliminate, and helping him to do so in a comfortable enviroment (Elimination Communication)
  4. Co-Sleeping – responding to Axel’s need to be close to us, and cherishing this time we have with him
  5. Baby-wearing – again, we recognize Axel’s need to be close to us, and we feel that wearing him helps us accomplish this, while still being able to get other things done.
  6. Breastfeeding – we believe the breast is a very important place of comfort for our son, and it also supplies him with wonderful nutrition, which is crucial for us.
  7. Unschooling – he is still very young, but we want to honor his passions by allowing him to explore the world throughout his life, without him feeling forced to “learn” things that are uninteresting to him.  (I don’t think he would actually be truly learning anyway, if that was the case.)
  8. Raw foods – we want to fuel his body as naturally as possible, which for us means having fresh, whole, unaltered food available for him to eat, if he wants to eat it.
  9. We want to show him God’s love through loving him, and each other.  We don’t want to be overbearing parents who insist that he believe how we believe, because we know that is very ineffective.  We are simply going to try our best to show him pure love, without judgement, as God loves us.

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I’m sure I could go on and on, but I felt it necessary to give at least a little framework of what we consider natural parenting to be.  I want everyone to know that I do not think these are the “right” way of doing things, simply the right way for us.  Please, follow your own hearts when it comes to raising your children.  I just ask that you try your hardest to understand that I am doing the same. 

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Thank you all for reading.  Sorry if things got a little sappy.  :)   I’ll be back on Sunday.

Alright people, its grapefruit time in Texas, and as many of you know, when something is in season it’s usually good and its almost always cheap.

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Wal-Mart and other regular grocery stores have mostly the smaller size fruits.  Whole Foods, however (who usually have fairly high prices), have an 18 pound bag of the big size fruits for $8.99 (that’s 50 cents a pound!), and they are fantastic!  It is hard to find good fruit that cheap, so hurry and get some.   We are about to get into our fourth 18 pound bag in the past month.

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Sarah and I eat only fruit for breakfast, and when citrus fruits are in season and picked at the right time (silly farmers), they are awesome.  I would highly recommend anyone who has access to these cheap, in season grapefruit, to give them a try for breakfast as well.  You don’t have to give up your normal breakfast to give this a try, the grapefruit will be long gone from your stomach if you wait about 30 to 45 munites before eating something else.

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Try it instead of coffee.  I used to drink coffee every day to focus in the morning, and I was never as focused and energized as when I eat good, perfectly ripened fruit first thing in the morning.

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My favorite way to eat it is by cutting it in half, and digging it out with a spoon.  The skin around the meat is tougher than other citrus fruits, and this method allows you to get around eating it.  It is a bit messy, especially if it is really good.  Eat it over the sink and you should be fine.  (^;

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By the way, this is Sarah’s dear husband, Patrick.  I will be posting every now and again.  If anyone in the Dallas Fort Worth metroplex knows of any good deals on good fruits or vegetables we would appreciate the info, especially if they are organic.

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We look forward to hearing from you!

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Whoops! I completely forgot to post my resolutions yesterday. I guess I was too excited about my Ergo’s sweet return to think about anything else!
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Personally, I don’t really like the whole “resolutions” term. For my sake, let’s just call them goals. I want some things to happen this year, and I’ll have to work to get them accomplished. Simple as that. Sure, you could say I’m resolving to do things, but when people say that, usually no change ends up happening.
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I also don’t like the fact that you are all of the sudden supposed to quit/start something as soon as New York’s ball drops. I think it’s a much better idea to slowly transition into new behaviors, that way they end up sticking. I’ve spent my life not doing things that way, and I think that’s the reason I have such a hard time following through when I say I’m going to do things. It has to be a heart change, not just something you say you will or won’t do. That’s why, this year, I’d prefer to distance myself from the whole concept, altogether, kind of as my New Year’s resolution. :p
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As of right now, I’m only eating beans, brown rice, vegetable, and fruit. The bulk of it is organic.
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Now, we wait.

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We have to get Axel pooping regularly again. Poor little man, he’s been such a trooper. In 2-3 weeks I’ll introduce some raw nuts. (I found a great site online that I can buy “truly” raw almonds from!) We’re praying that his system will clear out quickly, and things will return back to normal.
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Besides getting our little boy’s body functioning properly, our main objective is to spend less money this year, and SAVE.  We are officially getting really serious about knowing where we put our money.  We’ve even decided to make January a “no spend” month.  (This just means that we can only buy “true” necessities, such as food (within budget), bills, and gas for the van (within budget).)  No more messing around.  Saving $1000 is our first goal.  (This is also the first step in the Total Money Makeover, which I finished reading, by the way- great stuff!)

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The next thing we want to accomplish is to eventually eat raw until dinner everyday. We want to get to the point where we eat fruit for breakfast every morning (check), and a big salad for lunch with a few nuts or sprouted seeds.  Ideally, we will have this goal met by Axel’s first birthday in May, but we’ll see how it goes.

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One of my personal goals is to exercise and stretch more.  I’d like to do this naturally, by hiking, swimming, and doing other “fun” activities.  I miss the euphoric feeling you get when your energy is exerted.  But, I really don’t like “working out,” as it feels so forced, and unnatural.  I remember being a kid, when I would run like crazy just for the fun of it.  I had no clue that I was exercising, I was just having a good time.  I want to return to that feeling.  Just being alive should make me want to jump around, don’t you agree?

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Another thing we really want to do is get some of our old debt taken care of.  Patrick has a lot of collections, and it would be nice to get some of it settled.  Stupid credit card debt can cause a lot of grief, if you let it.  It’s no wonder that one of the top reasons people divorce is because of finances.  Money can be stressful, especially when you don’t know how to use it properly!

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Overall, I just want to live better this year than I did in the last.  I want to be kinder, and more understanding.  I want to truly focus my attention on God, and not just on what I “think” He wants for me.  I want to get to know my husband and son more, and I want them to know, with everything in them, that I love them.

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This is going to be a good year, and an even better decade.  I can already feel it.

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Please feel free to share your New Year’s goals.  I’d love to hear what other people are doing!  :)

In the bottom of my last post, I gave a brief history of my first hospital experience.  I’d like to talk about that a little more real quickly.

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In the 3 months prior to my first visit to the emergency room, I was feeling pretty lousy.  I was experiencing what I can only describe as an intense pressure in my chest.  Migraines plagued my everyday life, and I frequently had a burning sensation in my stomach.  I also had a weird copper taste in my mouth most of the time.  I felt like I was falling apart.

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That is what caused me to go to the emergency room in the first place.  (It wasn’t an emergency, but I had no money or health insurance, and that was my only option.)  As I mentioned earlier, they ended up sending me home with nothing more than a $200 bill.

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Now, back to the story…

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We got to the hospital in Dallas, and we sat around for hours on end, surrounded by sick people, and drug addicts begging to be prescribed some painkillers.  When I was finally seen, I described my symptoms and they began a series of tests. After a pap-smear, fecal sample, H. pylori test, and an x-ray, they still didn’t know definitively what was wrong with me.  Finally, they had me drink this white “numbing” liquid.  It made my stomach feel somewhat better, so they concluded that what I had was a stomach ulcer.

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They sent me home with the recommendation to take Zantac 75mg.  So, that’s what I did.  After a month or so, I wasn’t seeing any results, so I decided to double the dosage.  I was now in with the big dogs, taking Zantac 150mg.

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Raising the milligrams did help initially, but not as well as I would have hoped.  It allowed me to cope with life, but I still wasn’t feeling as well as I knew a 17 year old should.

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Right before the new year, some good friends invited us to stay with them, because they knew we were in a rut.  (Thank God for them!)  Soon after moving in with them, I got some advice from a stranger at a restaurant.  He suggested that I switch to taking Prilosec, as that turned out being more successful for him than Zantac.  I did just that, and ended up feeling a hundred times better.

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Unfortunately, though, I became dependent on it.  (Like everyone does.)  My stomach no longer knew how to function without it.  I remember running out for a couple of days once, and my stomach never hurt so much in my life.  It was way over producing acid, because it had adapted to the drug, and without it, it didn’t function correctly.  I had inadvertently destroyed my stomach’s natural ability to heal itself.  My solution?  Take more Prilosec, of course.

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Fairly quickly I started to realize that what I was doing just didn’t make sense.  There had to be another way.  We started eating better, and I realized that when I ate certain foods, like beef for instance, my stomach problems would return.  Soon, the connection between my health and the food I was eating started to form in my mind, and before long, I was convinced that I had to stop drugging myself with Prilosec.

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I started trying to wean myself off of Prilosec, but it was really difficult.  I would take the full dose 1 day, and 1/2 a dose the next.  I did that for awhile, but then switched to only every other day, but couldn’t take less than that without feeling the pain.  My body was unhealthy, and unable to fix what was wrong with it.  I knew I needed to do something to help my body do it’s job.

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I researched like crazy, and came across the subject of fasting multiple times.  After talking with Patrick about it, we decided to do a fast.  We ended up settling on a 5 day fasting program, which required that we eat no food whatsoever.  I also decided to go without my Prilosec for those 5 days, which was quite a risk for me.

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I can’t even describe to you how wonderful that experience was.

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During those 5 days, I felt sickly (detox), but really great at the same time.  I could feel my body healing itself, and it was the first time I had ever consciously thought about how my body was functioning.  It was eye opening.  The most amazing part was that after those 5 days, my acid reflux was gone.  The stomach burning was gone.  The migraines were gone.  I was my old self again, only a lot smarter and healthier.

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The myth had been dispelled.  Prilosec, Tums, and Zantac were not cures.  They were simply symptom disguisers.  The commercials look so appealing.  They show people eating donuts, drinking beer, and having a grand ol’ time, all because they popped their morning Prilosec.  They claim that you will never suffer from indigestion again, and all this other nonsense.  What they don’t tell you is that you have to take them for the rest of your lives, and that you are destroying your stomach’s natural healing abilities in the process.

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People buy into this lie everyday, thinking they are just doing what they are supposed to by taking the medicines.  They want an easy out, of course, but I truly feel that most people have no idea that what they’re doing actually may be harming them.  I know I didn’t.  Sure, I was depressed at the prospect of having to take a pill for the rest of my life, but I figured that it was just a part of life.  It doesn’t have to be, though!

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Now, whenever I feel a little indigestion coming on, I either fast, or eat raw for a day or so.  Juicing is a particuarly quick solution, and always cures it for me.  By doing one of those things, I am allowing my body to focus on the problems inside, instead of having to use all it’s energy on digesting and getting rid of toxic food, and with juicing, I’m also supplying my body with readily available nutrients that are alive and fresh.

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Think about it, we are constantly eating acid forming foods, and hardly any that are alkalizing (mainly raw fruits/veggies).  It’s no wonder that we have indigestion and GERD.  (Gastro-Intestinal Reflux Disease)  There is no easy way out.  We must start eating better, or else we’re doomed to pop pills for the rest of our short lives.

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The systems of the body are so complex and intelligent, but we don’t give them nearly enough credit.  (God did create them!)  Our bodies have everything they need to cure themselves, if we’ll just give them a chance to.

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If you are suffering from stomach acid problems, I beg you to try juice feasting, or fasting with just water.  I can almost guarantee it will change you.  It sure did me.

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Wow.

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It’s been quite an eventful past couple of days.  Christmas is lots of fun, but as I discover more and more each year, it is a very hectic/stressful holiday. There’s plenty of relatives to visit, gifts to buy, and sleep to “not” get.  (So much for Patrick catching up on the Zzz’s over his work break!) 

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The night before Christmas we ended up staying up all night, and I mean literally, all night.  (We went to sleep at 10am, and woke up at 11!)  We were baking cooking, stretching taffy, and sugar coating pecans.  I was a zombie at my mother in laws house.  We survived, though.  We did a lot of the same old stuff we do every year.  (Eat, open gifts, hug each other, read the Christmas story, etc…)

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Something rather exciting and unordinary did happen, though, that I simply must share.  We had a white Christmas!  Texas actually got some snow, for once!  Technically, it fell on the day before, but Christmas Eve was good enough, especially considering we didn’t think we were getting any at all!  We ended up with about 3 inches of fluffy white goodness.  Patrick and I went completely nuts, and decided to do something crazy and spontaneous.  We made snow angels…

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…in our bathing suits.

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That’s Patrick’s, “oh my gosh, this is freaking cold,” face.

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I swear I made a snow angel, too!  Unfortunately, the angle was terrible and inappropriate for public viewing, forcing me to post a typical posing shot.  Funny thing is, I actually went outside a second time in an awful attempt to get a better snow angel picture.  No such luck, I guess.  (Now that I think about it, it’s not that funny.)

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You know, they say that once a person eats 100% raw food, they are more capable of withstanding extreme temperatures.  I don’t know if that’s true or not, but I do now know that the opposite is true… we don’t eat all raw, and we almost froze to death!  I’ll have to remember that for future reference.

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Poor little Axel, I’m sure he thinks his parents are nut cases.

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But you know, maybe we are.