Elimination communication potty training isn’t as hard as it sounds- most of the time.

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Today it was hard, though.  Axel overslept last night, so his nap schedule was all out of whack this afternoon.  He has been cranky, agitated, and in an all around lousy mood.  The poor little guy has been falling apart.

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I thought I’d take advantage of this day and let you all know that we most certainly do have elimination communication potty training issues.  It’s important that people understand that even full time ECers have their bad days.  Sometimes babies just don’t want to use the potty, and that’s okay.  The important thing is that we aren’t giving up, even after days like these.  (Axel’s gone through 7 pairs of underwear!)

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I want this post to be encouraging for those who have an interest in elimination communication potty training, but who think that they are not cut out to do it perfectly.  Truth is, no one is.  It would be a lot different if we all lived outside in the nude, like we did in the beginning, but things are no longer that way.  That is the main reason I am not anti-diaper, because I understand that our world isn’t how it once was.  Many of the more natural practices have become not so natural, simply because we live in a completely different culture now.

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It’s really important not to get stressed out on days when you have a lot of misses. Elimination communication potty training is not about perfection.  “Off” days should just give you a chance to learn more about your children, their needs, and how they communicate those needs to you.  Today was a perfect learning opportunity for Patrick and I, and although days like these can be slightly discouraging, we still trust that we are doing the right thing for our family.

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I’ll give you a quick overview of how our day went today.

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We woke up, and well rested Axel used the potty without a problem.  He also went two times after that easily and without fuss.  Then nap time came around, but because he had overslept last night, he wasn’t ready for it.  That’s when things started going downhill.

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He became more cranky as time passed.  He started to flex and throw a fit every time we tried to potty him, but he would pee in his underwear a minute or two later.  We decided to give him a break and relaxed on the ec for awhile.  (There’s no point in trying to force your child to use the bathroom, especially if it’s just going to tick him/her off.)

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He eventually fell asleep, but because he had been refusing the potty, he had a full bladder.  (We had a couple of misses before this, but Axel rarely completely empties his bladder in his underwear.  He doesn’t like feeling wet.)  Anyway, he ended up waking up after only an hour because he needed to use the bathroom (he wakes up to go potty, and he won’t go back to sleep if it’s during a nap).  Then the cycle began all over again.

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I wouldn’t say today was a complete ec failure, as we did catch some of Axel’s pees, and his one poop.  The number of misses or catches we have isn’t really important, though.  This is not a game of score.  Each day is going to be different.  We’re very thankful that we’ve had a lot of success with this process, but we just want people to know that we still have difficulties.  Regardless, we love elimination communication potty training, and we’re happy we get to practice it with Axel.

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If we can do it, you can do it too.

Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely love cloth diapers.  We’ve had an amazing experience with prefolds, and we are a lot less broke because of them.  Now, though, we’ve become spoiled.

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A while back we decided that Axel was doing well enough with EC (elimination communication) to start wearing underwear.  Or, at least, something similar to training pants, with a little padding.  Sad thing was that the cheapest “baby” training underpants I could find were $4 a pair!  There was no way I was paying that.  My really nice prefolds were only about $2.50 each, so it didn’t make sense to spend that kind of money on tiny underwear.

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Patrick had the great idea to buy some regular undies, and sew cut up cloth dipes into them. We went to Walmart to buy the whitey tighties, but the smallest size we could find was 4t.  We bought them anyway, figuring we could probably shrink them pretty good in the dryer.  After successfully shrinking them, we cut up some prefolds into thirds, and went to a friend’s house to use her sewing machine.  That’s when the problems started.

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The thing is, I had never used a sewing machine, and had to be taught how to use it in roughly 15 minutes.  Needless to say, I must not have been the best student, because that stupid little wheel thingy at the bottom kept falling off, and my needle kept losing it’s thread.  I spent so much time and energy trying to sew those darn things, but after 3 hours of frustration, I gave up.  I wasn’t a complete failure, as I did end up with 9 pairs completely finished.  Granted, they look terrible, but they serve their purpose well enough.

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The sewing episode took place about 6-8 weeks ago, and we haven’t touched the subject since.  My husband is starting to get really annoyed with the the bulky prefolds.  The underwear are so much easier because you don’t have to worry about snappis, or finding a place to lay Axel down to put on his diaper.  You can just pull the things on and off in a few seconds.  Plus, Patrick loves walking Axel, and the prefolds make it harder for him to do so comfortably.  (By “walking”, I mean holding Axel’s hands while he walks.)

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Anyway, point being is that I need to get to another sewing machine and finish these things!  Having the remaining 10 pair finished would make a world of difference, especially since Patrick does whatever he can to avoid using the prefolds, even if that means washing the underwear twice as much.  (Which is ridiculous!)

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So, my official New Year’s resolution is to have the underwear done before the new year.  That’s ironic.

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Also, just FYI, these homemade training pants are really inexpensive.  We bought a pack of 6 undies at Walmart for about $5, and then we cut up our newborn prefolds into 3 pieces, and seamed the edges closed.  Those prefolds were about $2 each, so, divide that by 3 and add it to the underwear cost.  In the end, they came out to be about $1.35 each.  A good deal, if you ask me, and so worth the effort!